Closure: The Rush to End Grief and What it Costs Us by Nancy Berns

By Nancy Berns

By way of the tip of a courting, the lack of a friend, or perhaps a nationwide tragedy, we're frequently instructed we'd like "closure." yet whereas a few humans do locate closure for his or her ache and grief, many extra believe that closure doesn't exist and think the inspiration merely encourages fake hopes. Sociologist Nancy Berns explores those rules and their ramifications in her well timed ebook, Closure. Berns uncovers a number of the interpretations and contradictory meanings of closure. She identifies six sorts of "closure talk," revealing closure as a socially built idea and a "new emotion." Berns explores how closure has been utilized broadly in renowned media and the way the belief has been appropriated as a political instrument and to promote services. This ebook explains how the frenzy for closure--whether we discover it important, attractive, or enraging--is altering our society.

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The hope for a healed self after the devastation of tragedy and grief is poignant and common. Hope keeps people searching for help. Hope keeps people looking for answers in other people’s stories and advice. Because people who grieve are often broken and hanging on to hope, it is important to examine grief narratives and the motivations behind those stories to help understand the implications they have on those who hurt. There are many ways to grieve, and there is hope for healing. Along the way, though, there are people trying to shape what you do in the midst of pain for a variety of reasons.

You can assure yourself that you have memories and rituals to show respect to your loved one. Those who grieve sometimes want others to remember, too. Some seek closure by participating in public rituals of remembrance. Memorials ensure remembrance through such devices as roadside crosses and body tattoos. Public memorials help us remember wars, terrorist attacks, or school shootings. Individually, people rely on newspapers or, more recently, the Internet to create memorials remembering loved ones.

A second example was given that represented the lowest rating of closure (“very unresolved”): “Living in Oklahoma City at the time of the Murrah Building bombing, it was hard not to loose [sic] control of my emotions; the Murrah Building was so small compared to the [World Trade Center]. The loss of life that took place before my eyes (via TV) is something I will never forget and it still brings in a sinking sad scared feeling. . ”16 What is interesting about these studies is that while the researchers are trying to measure whether or not people have closure, they fail to consider whether or not closure even exists.

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